Sometimes it feels like our happiness depends on another person, and that without them we’re doomed to misery. This heartache we experience in relationships is not a symptom of love, but the result of attachment. As long as our sense of contentment and well-being is dependent on someone else, rather than being dependent upon our experience of love, we are setting our self up for an emotionally complicated and tiring relationship.
Buddhism offers a radical redefinition and possibility of love – one that is unconditional and free of the angst and heartbreak that attachment creates. The more we enhance the love we naturally have through time-tested meditation techniques, the more we will be able to rely on our own good heart for stability and contentment which will allow our relationships to be more balanced and unconditional and therefore a lot more fulfilling.